Random Talk

[BIONIC]

I've done some reflection and taken a few actions (oh god Nintex don't change strategies again) that will hopefully improve the trajectory of my dating (wait what?). I realized that with many dates there was always a hidden agenda on one side or both sides. Shit tests and games to see who could 'win' and ultimately both lost.

So I've cut off a bunch of bullshit chats. I won't reach out to 29f unless she contacts me and I'll focus more on trust, interests and mutual attraction. Hopefully that connects me to people that I actually like that are after the same thing like 38f. Talking it over with my co-workers I gave up on that too soon just when it started to work.

Out of the 5 likes today, I matched the one that enjoys LOTR+games but is tired of the dating app games and is looking for something real. By chance also the cutest. I hope I can make that arcade date happen. So I send her a fun opener that well, I would enjoy watching LOTR and hugs throwing in some references beyond 'I like LOTR' to signal to Arwen that I'm the real deal. 


Had a good chat with my boss about some lingering issues. The team doesn't support me as well as they should and he had some good ideas on how to heal that rift.  

Also chatted with the redhead co-worker. She asked how my weekend was and I told her it was absolute chaos with my worst date of the year and the psychopath. She enjoyed the story and felt bad for me. She had a bit of a rough weekend as well but after that steered it back to the business at hand. It's clear that she still sees me as a friend and nothing more. So clarity and we're both happy with the situation. 

The psycho is next, I prevented his suicide but I'm going to tell him later tonight I can't do more. All he wants now is money. My phone has been buzzing all day with his messages. Overall he just sees other people as problems or ATMs.

For once I'm glad my PT moved the training to tommorow because I'm dead tired. But I succeeded optimizing the profile without realizing it, 8 likes this weekend, 5 likes today. All I need to do is wait for suitable matches like 32f. Hook them with a fun opener, chat a bit, get their number, ask them out for a walk or a drink, keep in touch for a few days and see if we click and we want to continue dating. It works and as long as they show up for the public dates and are interested enough to stick around for a few hours there is no need to 'level up' to skipping the public date.